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Coping Through the Holidays
The holiday season can be very difficult for people that have been impacted by violence and can be a time of sadness, pain or anger for families and victims. Although this is true, there are certain strategies that can help you get through this difficult time.
First and foremost, families and victims must give themselves permission to feel whatever it is that they are feeling and recognize that it is normal to feel sadness and grief throughout the holidays. As a result, you should not try to hide or ignore your emotions. If you feel sad, you should cry; if you feel angry, you should allow yourself to express it.
Do not be afraid to ask for help. It is okay if you need help from others to make it through the season. Try not to feel as though you are a burden. Your friends and family members want to be there for you.
Since everyone grieves differently, families should celebrate the holidays in a way that is best for them. For instance, you can celebrate old traditions or start new ones. For some, old traditions may be too painful to endure. Others may find it important to continue old traditions. Whatever the decision, the loved one can still be incorporated in your celebrations or traditions. For instance, your loved one’s stocking can be hung with the rest of the stockings.
It is important to continue to eat healthy and get plenty of rest. The holiday season is already a stressful time. As a result, the stress associated with grief can make things worse. Staying healthy can lower stress levels and help make the holidays more pleasant.
You may want to consider donating a gift or money in order to commemorate a loved one. This is a wonderful way of remembering someone that has been lost and helping others in need at the same time. Families can also commemorate loved ones in other ways. A candle can be lit in the loved one’s memory or family members can gather together to share fond memories and special stories.